Suicide, Is it Selfish? On whose part? Maybe we all should practice a little more self-control before we choose to speak our minds to others concerning what we think of them.
I’ve heard a few times in my lifetime someone say, “I refuse to go to their funeral because they committed suicide,” or “If they’re that selfish to leave their loved ones behind, then I have no interest in attending their funeral.”
As one of the Chaplain’s for the GPD I have been to a scene where someone committed suicide. As I stood and listened I’d hear out of one side of the relatives mouths the words “how selfish,” and out of the other side I could hear about how awful some people treated him his entire life, namely treated poorly by his father. Proverbs 18:21 reminds us that “The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.” Let that soak in for a minute……the tongue has the potential to do what?
Some may believe it to be selfish for him to take his own life, but what about those who selfishly chose to speak evil words towards him his whole life. Those who were supposed to have his best interest in mind. Maybe even those who brought this individual into this world. These were the very ones who then planted the seed of self-destruction within him…the tongue can bring death. Such words were making him feel worthless, unwanted, unloved, used, etc. Who’s the sick one? Who’s the selfish one who couldn’t control his speech that led this person to entertain these thoughts? It’s those who choose to abuse the use of their tongue, which is what you’ll find it in the verses below. For this particular individual he is the one who had to wrestle with some of those deep mental scars…replaying that remix of evil and negativity over and over in his mind made for all the ingredients to convince him to do what he did. Not justifying his action, just a little more understanding of the pain he had been enduring for so long (I’m sure there were a compilation of other issues too that aided in his final decision, but we do know that harm words have on others). Apparently he couldn’t handle listening to those voices any longer.
So, who was or were the selfish individual(s) in this man’s story? Maybe both sides, right? Just remember that what you have to say and how you say it to others can have lasting and deadly effects! Those who may have tried to help him in the past might have been looking to what was wrong with him and his mental health, rather than digging a little deeper into what sorts of destructive words he’s allowed to take up residence in his mind. Some who have tried to help in the past may have also overlooked, missed, or ignored the real cause of his mental illness. Did someone’s words and actions push him over the edge? Did he believe their lies about him? So, was he mentally ill? Maybe, but let’s respectfully take into consideration who or what got him to that point? Who are the potential demons (fools, evil speakers) that pushed him over the edge...was it someone who said or did something that planted this sick seed and thoughts inside his head?
In time, this leads to an illness and it seems as though no one can cure such individuals of it. But we as believers know that Christ can, but sometimes when deeply hurting maybe He even isn’t a thought in their minds as to the someone who can provide the cure or healing, especially if the individual considering suicide is an unbeliever.
Just remember, words do indeed bring destruction into the lives of others. Please read through and consider the passages below, and then determine within yourself how you will choose to use your tone and words towards others, even when speaking to yourself. If suicide is something you’ve entertained over and over again, then please reach out to someone and seek help asap. Always know that you can reach out to me…I’ll try to help or point you to someone who can.
Let me end this section with this question, “Will you choose to use words that bring death or life to others?”
Practicing His Presence,
2 Corinthians 10:5 (NIV) We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
1 O Lord, rescue me from evil people.
Protect me from those who are violent,
2 those who plot evil in their hearts
and stir up trouble all day long.
3 Their tongues sting like a snake;
the venom of a viper drips from their lips.
Proverbs 11:9, 12 (NIV) With their mouths the godless destroy their neighbors, but through knowledge the righteous escape. 12 Whoever derides their neighbor has no sense, but the one who has understanding holds their tongue.
Proverbs 12:18 (NIV) The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Proverbs 15:1, 4 (NIV) A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.4 The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.
Matthew 15:18-19 (NLT) 18 But the words you speak come from the heart—that’s what defiles you. 19 For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander.
James 1:19 (NLT) Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.
Ephesians 4:15 (NLT) Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.
Ephesians 4:29 (NLT) Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.
The below article is taken from gotquestions.org.
Why did Jesus warn against saying the word raca in Matthew 5:22?
Matthew 5:22 is the only passage in the Bible where the term raca is used. Raca comes from the Aramaic term reqa. It was a derogatory expression meaning “empty-headed,” insinuating a person’s stupidity or inferiority. It was an offensive name used to show utter contempt for another person. Jesus warned that the use of such a word to describe someone was tantamount to murder and deserving of the severest punishment of the law.
In Matthew 5:21, Jesus recalled the sixth commandment, “You shall not murder” (Exodus 20:13). In characteristic fashion, Jesus took the old law one step further by explaining the true significance of the law—a deeper, spiritual meaning they had never seen.
First, Jesus warns that the very act of murder finds its roots in an angry, murderous spirit: “But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment” (Matthew 5:22a). God, who examines the very thoughts and intents of the heart, will issue judgment upon unrighteous anger. Next, Jesus warns against name-calling, using “raca” as an example (verse 22b). Then He issues a third warning against those who call someone a “fool” (verse 22c).
The first-century Jews recognized that “anyone who murders will be subject to judgment” (Matthew 5:21), but Jesus warns that even calling another person insulting names such as “raca” is sinful. Murder begins in the heart, and epithets such as “raca” are signs that there is hatred lurking within. The hatred that causes one person to hurl insults is the same hatred that causes another to commit murder. The attitude of the heart is the same, and it’s this attitude that makes a person morally guilty before God.
Jesus not only warns us against expressing unrighteous anger, which can lead to murder, but clearly commands that disparaging denunciations and name-calling be avoided. Such abusive words reveal the true intents of one’s heart and mind for which we will be held in judgment: “I the LORD search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve” (Jeremiah 17:10; cf. 1 Samuel 16:7; 1 Chronicles 28:9). https://www.gotquestions.org/raca.html
Nate Smith is a college baseball and football coach, a husband, a father of 6 girls, grandpa to 2 granddaughters, a police chaplain, and has a passion to see men grow in Christ.
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